I am a biracial Black woman and what I know to be true is that darker skinned black women have a daily existence much harsher than I do. Yes, I am a black woman with a white mother and a black father. As complicated as it may seem, I get to choose how I identify and no, you don’t get to decide for me regardless of whether you are black or white. This excerpt is my own experience of blackness and its shades thereof.

I am light-skinned. Not light enough that I pass for being a white woman but light…

Member Spotlight: I’m a survivor; I come from a messy heritage of colonizers, Indigenous folks and sex workers. I’m an outspoken woman who comes from a long line of tight-lipped women who believed that “a good woman suffers in silence.”

Name: Jamie Fraipont-Daszkiewicz

Age: 43

Lives: Rural Colorado

Who am I?

The ever evolving self question. In this season in my life I am a questioner, a radical, feminist, witch. A mama of 13, 6 butterflies (non-biological) and 7 flowers (biological) children. I’m a matriarch, a woman who is learning abundance after generational trauma and poverty. I am a curator of community. I am a fighter. I am a woman who knows her worth and her voice. I am a child with a messy heritage, a product of broken boot straps, rugged mountains and Kool Aid stained summers. I am…

Member Spotlight: My greatest challenge at the moment is changing my thought pattern away from illness and towards wellness.

Name: Chelsea Dutton

Age: 36

Lives: Illinois

Who are you? Answer that in any way that feels appropriate to you.

I am a positive beam of sparkling light. Nomad. Eternal student (I took over 100 courses last year ranging from Meditation to Shuffle Dancing to House Plants 101). Art Director. Ad Woman. Creative. Mermicorn. Sensitive. Music festival lover. Dance all-nighter. A person who relishes in time alone.

What has been the impact of owning the fact you are a grown ass woman?

Being more at ease and comfortable with who I am.

Member Spotlight: “I just want people, all people to believe in their guts that they can do anything, the easy stuff — the impossible stuff and the stuff no one else wants to do, if it means you are a little closer to internal peace.”

Name: Gabrielle Krake

Age: 50

Lives: Boise, Idaho

Who are you? Answer that in any way that feels appropriate to you.

I come from meadows and mountains where dogs howl late at night to a smiling moon. My life was carved from the forests of the last frontier and doused in the light of the aurora borealis. I’d lived in 55 separate homes growing up. The first time I went to a dentist I was a teenager. The man with a shiny office and handfuls of sharp tools marveled at how it was possible to raise a child in such…

Member Spotlight: “Most decisions can be changed or you can make another decision to alter the course later. But the limbo of not making a call is draining torture. Most of the time you know what you need to do. Just listen to yourself and do it. Just order the pizza. Or buy the house!”

Name: Erin Stein

Age: 43

Lives: West Orange, NJ

Who are you? Answer that in any way that feels appropriate to you.

I have identified myself with my career for most of my life — which was an extension of what I liked as a child. I am a book lover. I am a reader, an editor, a storyteller. I am a mix of the creative and the practical. I’m shy, but love to be on stage. I’m a procrastinator who performs well under pressure.

I recently lost my job — which means losing the business that I built for…

There’s something wildly freeing about knowing that when you put yourself out there, unapologetically — your people show up, the ones who deeply appreciate you in all of your you-ness.

It’s also really scary because there is a possibility that you can do the same thing — put your whole soul on the line — and no one will show up.

So does that mean that we don’t risk it; that we stay half versions of ourselves that might be more palatable for others? Of course not.

Here’s why it’s important that you’re clear on your authentic voice and share…

Member Spotlight: “If you’re not going to touch something with your whole heart, it’s not worth touching at all.”

Name: Eunice Brownlee

Age: 41

Lives: Denver, Colorado

Who are you? Answer that in any way that feels appropriate to you.

I feel like I am constantly trying to figure that out. This whole idea of identity is endlessly fascinating to me. I could answer this in so many ways. I wear rose-colored glasses and I like it that way. I’m a business owner, marketer, writer, mom, incredibly loyal, Enneagram 2, Taurus on the cusp of Aries (but I promise, I’m all bull). I’m an empath, hopeless romantic, divorcee, firstborn, mixed race daughter in the White dad club, and an…

Member Spotlight: “I’m a natural cheerleader and I want a community to cheer me on but also to help me to be the best version of myself. Sometimes I (and we) forget who we are and it takes a village to bring us back to ourselves”

Name: Dayle Bennett

Age: 49

Lives: Atlanta, Georgia

Who are you?

I’m Dayle Bennett, a creative Black lady who dreams in full color. A magical unicorn. Unapologetic cotton candy lover. Optimist. Romantic. Dog lover. Proud Baltimorian proud Baltimorean born and raised. Currently living in Atlanta where my creativity thrives. Star Wars geek. Crying is my superpower & my superhero name is Sprinkler. Soon To Be Roller Skater (I just bought a pair of Rose Gold skates!)

When do you first remember feeling like/owning/identify as a grown ass woman? I think the first time I felt like a grown ass woman…

Member Spotlight: “The most valuable skill in life I have developed is the ability to read a room and take what is “written” in that room at face value. That’s been hard, especially in this pandemic and during these less than civil times. Nonetheless it is still important to listen (and not immediately react) to what is being said and by whom.”

Name: Linett Adell

Age: 47

Lives: Columbus, Ohio

Who are you?

Wife, Sister, Aunt, Cousin, Partner in Crime, Cookie Widow (my husband is a baker and he gets very busy during the holiday season so I rarely see him during this season) Enthusiastic Cheerleader for my family & friends and a staunch supporter of Equal Rights for All.

I have a BFA in both Theater Performance & Film Production and what they’ve taught me was the ability to pivot quickly, rely deeply on others and also to make sure that life keeps on moving because the show MUST always go…

Member Spotlight: “My most underrated virtue is sensitivity. As a kid, I felt like something was wrong with me because I was hyper-sensitive and now I see this as a superpower and a real gift. It allows me to pick up on things before they happen and to build strong relationships.”

Name: Adelle Rewerts

Age: 41

Lives: Winnipeg, Manitoba

Who are you? Answer that in any way that feels appropriate to you.

Describing who I am right now is a bit challenging. Between the pandemic and raising young children, it leaves little space for myself and a lot of space for anxiety and depression to cloud my perspective. But in a way, it’s also stripped away all the excess. Looking at what’s stayed constant, I see an eternally curious and creative person. My art, my parenting, my work is all focussed on navigating the human condition and harnessing my power.


cyndie spiegel

CYNDIE SPIEGEL is a Brooklyn based bourbon drinking yogi who is also a published author + TEDx speaker elevating the behavioral status quo of women everywhere.

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